Letters For My Daughter

To my Darling Daughter, I have been churning on this topic ever since you told me about your friend who had gotten pregnant and then un-pregnant. I am distressed about this, by the cavalier attitude with which it seems some girls treat this topic and their bodies, even at 15 and 16.  I am distressed every time I see that boy at the pool, just wondering if he knows how close he came to throwing some serious monkey wrenches in his future, her future, and the future of a potential unborn child.  This is serious stuff. I am by no means naive to how this sex stuff works for young people.  The temptation is just so strong. And I am by no means ignorant of the fact that virginity and purity and chastity is not the norm.  Frankly, it wasn't the norm 30 years ago either, honey.  It was the 80s and 90s, not the 1950s.  There was more stigma, sure, and it happened more in secret and hidden. But it happened an awful lot. I had a lot of friends who were pretty fre...

To my Dear Daughter, My apologies for letting several weeks go by without a letter.  Life is crazy, as you well know :) No good excuses, I will do better. Honey, just want to let you know that the things you are going through and feeling right now are our top priority. I am glad that you are telling us how you are feeling. I never want you to suffer in silence. You have been through an awful lot of changes lately, and it should not be unexpected that you may have some sadness surrounding these changes and the stress you are under.  We are here to help you, 100%.  Keep talking to us, we want to help you. We love you infinitely and unconditionally, regardless of whether you are happy or sad, cheerful or irritable.  You are not to blame for your sadness; these things are normal and you have done nothing wrong. We're here for you, we support you, and we're going to work with you to make things better. You and your brother are always in my prayers, that is just...